Live in a Beautiful State

Core Decision

Draw a line in the sand: decide to be happy no matter what. Life won’t match your blueprint; your state drives your outcomes.

“Burn your boats.” Remove the escape hatch back to suffering.

Agency Clarity Non‑negotiable

90‑Second Rule

Notice suffering → interrupt it in ~90 seconds. Repetition lowers your tolerance for suffering and raises your baseline for joy.

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Catch it. Label the state: fear, anger, shame, rumination.

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Break it. Change physiology (posture, breath), focus, and language.

3

Replace it. Appreciate, love, or give—immediately.

Ho’oponopono (Reset to “Zero”)

A simple Hawaiian practice used for deep healing and relational “zeroing out.” Repeat slowly, from the heart:

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“I’m sorry.” Acknowledge shared responsibility for the human experience.

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“Please forgive me.” Release stuck stories and blame.

3

“I love you.” Let love pierce defenses and soothe the nervous system.

4

“Thank you.” Close with gratitude; repeat as needed. Many condense to “I love you, thank you.”

Use alone, with a partner, or toward someone you’re struggling with. Aim: return to presence before conditioning and narrative.

Operating Principles

A

100% Responsibility. You fully own your inner experience.

B

State First. Solutions surface faster from a beautiful state.

C

Simplicity Wins. One idea applied beats many ideas “shelved.”

Protocol: 3‑Minute State Shift

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Physiology (45s). Stand tall, inhale 4s, hold 4s, exhale 6–8s. Shake out tension.

2

Focus (45s). Ask: What’s something I can appreciate right now?

3

Meaning (45s). Ask: What could this mean that empowers me?

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Give (45s). Send a message of love or help someone—tiny act, big state change.

Prompts to Rewire

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What’s great about this or what can I learn?

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If I were already at peace, what would I do next?

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Where can I appreciate, love, or give—right now?

Practice daily; repetition makes suffering feel increasingly foreign.

Minute‑One Cheatsheet

Name it → “Suffering.” Change breath + posture. Ask 1 better question. Ho’oponopono × 3 cycles. Do 1 generous act.